Tuesday, July 13, 2010

175. Believe




Last night, someone I know really well, spent a great deal of time on the phone with a boy she has a little something going on with.

Like most girls, this friend of mine, can suffer from the odd bout of insecurity and so the topic of conversation for a day or so was - why her?

Why, out of all the gorgeous girls in the country.. why would he choose her?

She could be grumpy, they didn't live in the same town - hell, she was even older..

He told her very firmly "Don't question it. Just believe in it. It will take work. But I'll work hard at it. You'll work hard at it and then it will work. But never ever question it - just believe in it"

Best advice I have ever heard.

174. Chick Lit


Its cold in most of Australia; good weather to be wrapped up in bed with a book.


Here's my recommendation for the month... enjoy!

173. Long Distance Relationships




The LDR is often given a bad rap but actually I think it can work for awhile and sometimes even strengthen a relationship as it forces to you to be better communicators.

I do think it defintiely takes alot of work but then don't all good relationships worth the hard work?

Here are my Top 5 tips for surviving the distance..

1. Keep in touch throughout the day and night. Some texts, some emails, a facebook poke all let them know you are thinking about them throughout the day.

2. Nothing is too mundane. Swap stories about what you had for dinner, what time you are going to gym. This makes them feel part of your day to day life

3. Drunk dial them. You go to a club and then at the end of the night, you would usually go home to your lover. Calling them is second to that. Plus it eliminates any crazy fear that may have about you having met someone else whilst out. (this really can sneak in more often that not in a LDD)

4. Send them packages often. Love letter, or magazines or cards or choclates. Mail makes it more fun

5. Have an end plan. Even if its 5 years away. Having light at the end of the tunnel will make all the sucky parts easier

Thursday, July 1, 2010

172. 5 Minutes Left




Country and western music is often mocked by the masses. But you know what - some of their lyrics are better than poetry and something to maybe sit up and take notice of.

Tim McGraw wrote and sang the below.. Imagine how loved up we would all be if we did as he said and lived like we were dying...


He said I was in my early forties, with a lot of life before me
And one moment came that stopped me on a dime
I spent most of the next days, looking at the x-rays
Talking bout' the options and talking bout' sweet times.
I asked him when it sank in, that this might really be the real end
How's it hit 'cha when you get that kind of news?
Man what did ya do?
He said

Chorus
I went skydiving
I went rocky mountain climbing
I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu
And I loved deeper
And I spoke sweeter
And I gave forgiveness I'd been denyin'
And he said some day I hope you get the chance
To live like you were dyin'

Verse 2
He said I was finally the husband, that most the time I wasn't
And I became a friend, a friend would like to have
And all of a sudden goin' fishin, wasn't such an imposition
And I went three times that year I lost my dad
Well I finally read the good book, and I took a good long hard look
At what I'd do if I could do it all again
And then

Chorus
I went skydiving
I went rocky mountain climbing
I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Shu
And I loved deeper
And I spoke sweeter
And I gave forgiveness I'd been denyin'
And he said some day I hope you get the chance
To live like you were dyin'

Bridge
Like tomorrow was the end
And ya got eternity to think about what to do with it
What should you do with it
What can I do with it
What would I do with it

171. Winter Warmer..




With most of Australia experiencing really, really cold weather this winter.. its time to drag out a game or two that is guarenteed to make you warmer!


TIME BOMB
You need: A clock or an egg timer.

How to play: Pick a time interval -- 20 minutes, let's say. (If you're like us, even 10 minutes will be a change from the norm.) Whatever interval you choose, absolutely do not allow penetration until that much time has elapsed.

Why: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science -- and a bare minimum as well. "Time Bomb" refocuses you on the pregame show, the part that used to be so much fun before you lived together. You'll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. You get really creative. You'll get really hot.

170. Alcohol..



Here is some Thursday food for thought... does alcohol cause you to hook-up with your friend/flat mate/work mate?

Or does alcohol just push forward the feelings that were already there?

I'm interetsed to hear your thoughts - email me at therelationshipdoctor.com@gmail.com