138. When You Are The One.. Before The One He Marries

This is an awful occurrence and definitely one that seems terribly unfair at the time.

I've mentioned before about a guy I know that dated a lovely girl for 5 years. They broke up and within weeks he was dating someone else and within months they were engaged and now he's married to her.

And he is not the only one. Scan your friends and facebook.com for similar stories.

And whilst it may seem unfair that you went through all the bad stuff that every long term relationship unavoidably comes across and yet he didn't stay with you til death do you part, take solace in knowing that the same problems will raise their heads in this new relationship.

Frankly, in fact most importantly, you both did you a favour. Because if he actually loved you enough, he would have married you and not her.

And why would you ever want to spend even ten minutes with someone who didn't deserve you?

His loss.

137. Firass Fabulous!!

Congrats to the newest Cleo Batchelor of the Year!!

136. Chasing Amy

Best advice I can give you tody is - if you meet someone who mentions his ex-girlfriend more than twice in the first three months - run away.

It's a shadow you can't and shouldn't attempt to walk in.

He has baggage that you don't need to have brought to a new relationship - let him deal with it and if he is really, truly, interested in you, he'll come and find you when he is done with it.

You deserve better than being treated second best.

135. Smart Couples

I just got off the phone with my long-term friend S. She has been married to her husband K for about 5 years now, and dated him for ten years before that. They have two very cute, albiet boisterous, small children.

S just updated me that her husband K has started taking art classes every Tuesday night. She told me that they both believed it was important to nourish their own souls, not just indulge their children, now that the kids were getting a little bigger. (they are 4 and 2)

S is starting photography.

Mostly importantly, it gave them something to talk about that didn't involve the kids or each other. Something that was their's alone to own.

It won't take away from their family time. Or their couple time. Infact, it will without a doubt enrich it.

I love it!

NB This photo is of one the longest recorded married couples. The husband, Liu Fuben, 95, and the wife, Shi Jihui, 100, have been living together for 85 years

134. Za Za Zsu

The term, orginally, comes from "Sex and the City", where Carrie describes it as the feeling you get when you meet someone you really really like. That sort of lovey, butterflies feeling when you just want to be with someone.

I myself, describe it as the feeling you get when you like someone so much, you miss them as soon as they leave the room, your legs shake when you think about how much you want them wrapped around you and just a simple sms from them, infact the very sight of their name in your phone makes your stomach do a little flip.

Highly addictive!

133. Happliy Ever After!

Someone very dear to me, infact someone I have known for a very long time, is this month's guest post host!

Read below for some interesting and heart-warming feedback on long-term relationships on this rainy Saturday..

Dr R - How long have you been married for?

C - We have been married for nearly 14 years, but we have been together for 18! That is half our lives!


Dr R - How did you meet?

C - We met at a friend's birthday party, but we had actually been in a few classes at school together & hadn't realised.


Dr R - You have a daughter who is soon approaching the dating age - what's your number one dating advice for her?

C - She is still a bit young, but I would tell her to never forget your friends, as boyfriends will come & go, but your good friends are forever!


Dr R - Has your relationship changed as you have got older?

C - Yes. We are more understanding of each other now, & less selfish. We both understand that we each need time to ourselves, but we love spending time together too. I used to try & control every situation when we were young, but I am much more relaxed about things now.

Dr R - What's the best thing about marriage?

C - The best thing about my marriage is having someone to share my dreams with. We both want the same things out of life & we both head in that direction. We support each other fully, & we really understand how the other thinks.


Dr R - What's the hardest?


C - The hardest thing is knowing someone so well, some things really get on your nerves but you know they will never change that thing you hate! You have to learn to accept those things but that doesn't stop you from wanting to murder them sometimes!!!

NB - The RD thanks for her gorgeous friend for this personal interview.

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132. Joyeux anniversaire

I'm glad you had a fabulous day!

131. Meals In Heels

Cute book with great recipes for when you are next planning a special dinner for a gorgeous someone.

I completely recommend it!

130. Good Advice from a Glamour Guru..

Michael Kors is a true aficinado of timeless style..

The Hollywood designer was interviewed in Australian Vogue recently and had this to say about acting glamourous to attract a mate, not just looking the goods.

"It is not glamourous to take your BlackBerry out at the dinner table. Be present. Listen to what people have to say, be empathetic and think about how you wanted to be treated.

And use a little indulgence. We're all so busy and we all try to be good, to eat well, to exercise. Once in a while have a piece of cheesecake - it's not going to kill you. The women who are glamourous are always willing to have a little fun. Every man is excited when a woman orders a hearty meal; no-one wants to see a woman ordering a side salad"

For added glamour, Ive been wearing Kors new parfume "Michael Kors Very Hollywood' all day. It's seriously sex in a pretty glass bottle.

I'll be wearing it again as I head out later for some dinner. And some cheesecake.

129. Cock-blocked?

Heard it on the weekend, didn't know what it meant!

Wanted to share it with you all..

One who prevents another from scoring sexually.

ie Trudy and Dan frequently had time alone but her cockblocking roommate ruined any chances they had to have sex.

128. Postman Always Knocks

I heard about an interesting exercise recently and wanted to share it with you.

As we all know, sometimes one parent goes to work and one stays home with the kids. And for all those involved, it can be very hard work and frustrating.

I heard about this letterbox idea, where the working parent comes home but before they walk in the door, they collect a letter from a little family mailbox (not the actual mailbox) that has a nice message about the stay at home family members day

ie "Aurelia was very good today and ate all her vegetables. Plus she drew you this picture of an elephant"

After collecting the mail, the working partner, than posts his own letter about his or her frustrations about their own day, hence sealing away the issues for another day.

It may sound corny, but the couple I spoke to, swear it works after months of fighting..

127. Je suis desolee (sorry!!)

My humble apologies for being noticeably absent for weeks. I am back now and have lots and lots of posts for you all!

I promise never to go away for so long. Ever again!

RD