117. The Fatalist

Recently, someone I know very well, got told by a man friend of hers that frankly the two of them communicated too much on a day to day basis.

The girl took this information and ran crazy with it. And told him that they then, instead, would then not talk at all for three whole weeks. Nadda.

Which really was ridiculous, as after a bit of thought, this close friend of mine realised that actually, he was right and they did perhaps talk too much and that she had infact been neglecting several other very important aspects of her life, that she actually really had been missing.

I share with you now the tip that I gave her.

Count to 1,000 before responding to anything like this.

That gives time for common sense/rationale to prevail and permeate your response.

13. Dull Down the Drama

Women love to share private information. They believe that this helps them bond with another. For men - its as scary as hell.

Men are simple folk. Too much drama, sadness, scariness or excitementness (it's a word..) is frankly, too much!

Men like mystery. They do not like hearing your stories about psycho ex-boyfriends, crazed stalkers, sexually aggressive bosses, jealous ex-husbands, unloving mothers or weirdo neighbours until you have been together as a couple for a year and he knows you well. Giving all that up too soon and you will risk coming across like way too much trouble. Men think about how much a woman and her drama will affect their Sunday afternoon relax time and will cancel you out if pushed.

Need further proof?

Someone I know well, received a message from someone else I know well and it said "I think you are one really cool chick and one I want to hang out with. I don't like all this drama" She considered herself warned. Another boy who was less of a wordsmith may just have stopped calling.