196. Dear Diary..

Struggling to get into the mood?

Start keeping a private diary of all the lewd fantasies you have thought about or thought of acting out

Sometimes just putting those thoughts into words will keep you "motivated" more often..

194. Controversial New Self-Help Book...

Blow jobs.

There - I just saved you $39.95...

Seriously.. if your man says he doesn't, then he is lying.

189. Headband For Bedbanging?

Try wearing a headband to bed. Be naked but for the headband.

Girl on top will take on a bit more of naughty school girl feel that your guy might truly love.

Which can only ever work in your favour..

103. Eye Candies

This is just for fun!

And I am quite sure a few of my friends will appreciate it.

Check out all the pics at
http://www.smh.com.au/photogallery/lifestyle/people/whos-australias-hottest-tradie/20100225-p5it.html


Personally I prefer a man in uniform but each to their own...

100. Interesting Fact

Wearing stilettos will increase your chance of orgasm as they tighten your pelvic floor muscles...

61. Get Girlie!!

Reading a mag this am, I was dismayed to hear that jodpurs where being tauted as a big thing for this winter.

Stop that!!

I am further dismayed and frankly amazed at the difference between what women think is hot on women and what men think is hot?

When the hell did this happen?

I'll spell it out clearly for you

Men think women are sexy when they are showing off their anatomical differences - ie boobs and bum. And legs.

Not hiding them in baggy pants!!

Furthermore throw out your tracksuit pants. And your big t-shirts.

Run a bubble bath, throw on some episodes of Sex and City, paint your nails (but not blood red!!)

Lather your feet in moisturizer, brush your hair 100 times and call your BFF for a gossip about boys.

Relish in the power you have that is all yours by just being a girl!

NB Men also do not think leopard print is hot. Even if it is on pair of $500 shoes.

28. Porn Again

Today I received an email from a reader who was frustrated about her boyfriend watching porn. My reader was feeling rather left out. I suggested the following game for two..

Next time, your man wants to watch strangers get it on, let him know you want to join him.

However, for the first half of hour of the viewing... neither of you can touch each other or yourselves. Then next time, change the rules slightly so he can't touch you at all until its over. You, on the other hand, are free to do as you please.

I guarantee you will definitely feel like a major star of the show.



NB The viewing of pornographic material involving anyone under the age of 18 is illegal and the Relationship Dr does not condone it.

25. Bring Sexy Back

What do you wear to bed? What do you lounge around the house in? What do you wear under your work clothes? Does your answer contain adjectives like comfy, old, cotton and the occasional cartoon character?

STOOOOPPPP ITTTT!!!

Go to your room right now and throw it all out! What on earth are you saving the good stuff for?

Get it out of the drawer and on you!! Do not wear them again.

If you are struggling to feel sexy on a daily basis, then dressing frumpy underneath won't help you at all!!

Need further proof?

Last week, my recently dumped but very gorgeous friend purchased some lovely Victoria Secret lingerie including stockings and mandatory suspender belts.

When she called to tell me they had arrived, she added that she couldn't wait to show them off to someone next time she had a boyfriend. I berated her immediately. Told her to get them out of her underwear and to wear them to work.

Obediantly, the next day she woke up and put them on under her suit. When she walked into her workplace with an extra swagger in her step, her colleagues noticed the uplift in her attitude. So did the extremely hot guy from Accounts.

NB The best news is that you don't need to spend a fortune on all your sexy lingerie. With designers like Collette Dinnegan now stocking at Target (her range includes French knickers, corsets, chemises, plunge bras, briefs and boy shorts in champagne, cream, raspberry, black and chocolate) there is now something even for the budget conscious...

5. Babe Be Gone

I hate the term of endearment "babe". There is nothing at all special about it. Especially when used every five minutes and for everything. "no babe" "yes babe" "ok babe"

Apart from how common it sounds, I also know that whoever is using it, has already used it before. And there is also nothing special in that.

And whilst I understand that my bethrothed once belonged to another - I'd like to think that I am the one that he will stay with forever. Because I made him feel different than any other girlfriend/lover/crush he ever had.

It just doesn't have the feelgood appeal that "beautiful" or "gorgeous" or "hotstuff" has to it.

Also babe is slang for baby. And they are not always attractive.

Stop using "babe" TODAY on your lover. I mean it.

4. Manners Matter

If you think that manners are something you save for your grandma or your boss, then you are wrong.

Nothing sexier than a classy girl, and manners equal class. So stop sending texts to your partner that just say "cool" or 'ok" and mix it up with a little "sounds great gorgeous" - you'll be pleasantly suprised with the response even if he is just saying that he is picking up the kids from school.

On the flipside, research shows that men respond better to straight commands ie "can you take out the rubbish" as opposed to "will you take out the rubbish" - change that to "can you take out the rubbish sexy" and frankly, your man will generally be so excited about being called sexy, that he will just do it!

PS Don't replace sexy or gorgeous for babe. That post is coming. Be prepared for babe to go. Far, far away..