162. Michiko Kakutani

Michiko Kakutani is the Pulitzer Prize winning literary critic of the New York Times. Extremely revered by many with alot of people taking her opinions very seriously.

And whilst it's important to take on board the thoughts of others.. it's the thought of yourself, late at the night, when you are all alone, that you need to be most impressed with.

After all, you are the only one, who knows the real you and if you don't like you - you'll struggle to keep others as fans for long.

Ask yourself, if 8 year old you met you as you are now, a grown up - would she be impressed?

That's the critic you should be taking notice of.

106. You're A Dumb Cheat

People who say their cheating spouses are stupid may be close to the mark.

Scientists have concluded that men and women who sleep around are likely to have lower IQ's.

The smarter a human is, the less likely he is to cheat on his partner, according to Dr Satoshi Kanazawa, an evolutionary pyschologist from London.

His theory is that through evolutionary history, humans have always being midly polygamous.

Today, however, entering a sexually exclusive relationship is an "evolutionary novel" development and according to his theory, intelligent people are more likely to adopt new practices, to become "more evolved"

He says humans who cannot adapt and end up succumbing to temptation and cheating are likely to be more stupid.

So there.

24. Can A Tiger Ever Change His Spots?

I received quite a few emails from readers yesterday after my last post asking why cheating wasn't always a deal breaker.

Again I think its a very personal decision that can only be made by the person directly involved ie you.

Once you get through the awful first stage of finding out and have talked it over with your partner, the next stage of getting on with it, is just as hard.

If you do decide to trust him again, then this means that you have to learn to not question him every time he doesn't answer when you call or sms. And you have to really, try to not get mad at him when he has a new mysterious woman facebook friend.

However, the onus also has to be on your partner to make an effort to regain your trust by not giving you too many reasons to be suspcious.

If he is making a huge effort, then you need to decide if the punishment on you fits the crime.. Does being with him still make you really, really happy? Do you really believe him when he says it won't happen again? Are you still in love with him?

Only you can truly know the answer to that..

NB I'd advise against staying with someone you do not trust just because you have kids. A friend of mine (whose parents didn't divorce after the love was gone) once said to me "If your parents are fighting every day, your home is already broken"