191. Erection Rejection?

A friend of mine met this guy a few years back and they have hooked up once or twice. They are also the very best of sexter's.

They've swapped alot of naked pics and dirty talk - all very healthy, liberating stuff.

They would hook up more often except their work schedules don't permit - until the other night..

He almost cancelled due to a headache and an early morning start. She talked him into it.

He turns up to her house, the kissing was hot as was the pre-play action.

Then just as they were about to get right into it - he lost his erection. She was sympathetic. He seemed a bit upset and said he should leave.

She rubbed his foreheard with sympathy and gave him a sweet smile.

He told her he would chat to her soon and hurridly exited.

The next day, not giving it a second thought, she sent him a text saying she hoped his headache was better - he didn't reply and when she checked, he had deleted her off his facebook friend list.

Is it really that big a deal?

She doesn't think so.

I need to hear from my men readers.. email me at therelationshipdoctor.com@gmail.com

159. Top Ten. Us Versus Them

Cont. from yesterday...

Men
1. I didn't have that much to drink.
2. Nothing's wrong, I am fine.
3. I had no phone signal.
4. It wasn't that expensive.
5. I'm on my way.
6.I'm stuck in traffic.
7.No, your bum doesn't look big in that.
8. Sorry, I missed your call.
9. Yep, you've lost weight.
10. It's just what I have always wanted.

Women
1. Nothing's wrong, I'm fine.
2. I don't know where it is, I haven't touched it.
3.It wasn't that expensive.
4. I didn't have that much to drink.
5. I've got a headache.
6.It was on sale.
7. I'm on my way.
8.Oh, I've had this for ages.
9. No, I didn't throw it away.
10. It's just what I have always wanted.

141. Mint Bearnaise

Everyone knows the way to a man's heart is via his stomach. Here's a little something to help the journey!

Mint Bernaise

1/3 cup of good white vinegar
1 shallot
6 black peppercorns
4 egg yolks
250 g of butter
1/2 cup of fresh mint leaves

Place vinegar, chopped shallot and peppercorns in pan. Bring to bopil, boil rapidly until reduced by half. Strain liquid into top of double saucepan, add egg yolks, beat over simmering water for one minute. Add melted butter until thickened. Remove from heat, place in blender with mint leaves and blend for 30 seconds.

Serve over a rack of lamb for a delicious meal for a gorgeous someone

Bon appetit!

121. A Model's Musings

Yesterday Megan Gale stepped in for her bf Andy Lee, whilst Lee had dental surgury, co-hosting his drive time show with Hamish Blake.

Having a girl co-host, Blake took full advantage and asked Gale's advice what were her tips for "sealing the deal" in a relationship see-saw.

I share them with you now...

1) Cooking, cooking, cooking! And the better or fancier the dish, the more the points you'll win! A good roast, a good pasta and a good steak all came up trumps!

2) Find out his favorite sports team, and get a little interested.. Gale admits to having occasionally thrown out just the odd comment of "Johnson playted well today didn't he!" And will even go so far as texting Lee the score if she knows he might miss his fav match!

3) Befriend his friends (my fav!) Have them over, make them welcome at your place! Feed them and fetch them beer without being asked as a start..

Check out Hamish and Andy's website for a full copy of the podcast from yesterday's show

120. Can't Communicate?

Q: Why is it so difficult for men to communicate? Are you a psychologist?

A: I'm not a psychologist. If I were, I would know very little about the real world of relationships and dating. I learned the real way.

It's not always "difficult" for guys to communicate. Instead, what you're seeing is probably the result of years of former communication-gone-wrong experiences.

He probably once tried to tell a girl how he felt about something, and she either went mental or misinterpreted what he was trying to say.

Or, even worse, he once opened up to a girl about how much he liked her, and she dumped him. Once bitten, twice shy. So he has learned from his experiences and now figures that he just won't bother.

Another possibility is that he thinks he's communicating. Men and women say the same thing but in a different language.

If you've got a guy who won't talk, the best thing you can do is let him concretely know that you love blunt people. And be blunt with him on a few choice topics to open up communication ground.

But get ready, because opening the communication flood gates always brings some funky stuff floating down that river of honesty, and if your man is not the most sophisticated fish in the sea, he may inadvertently say some mean things. The best thing to do is keep him on a specific topic.

119. De Brito De Brilliant

I've blogged before that you should make Sam De Brito's blog part of your daily reading just for an insight!

And this particular post makes for very entertaining reading..

http://blogs.theage.com.au/executive-style/allmenareliars/2010/03/02/howtosayilo.html

61. Get Girlie!!

Reading a mag this am, I was dismayed to hear that jodpurs where being tauted as a big thing for this winter.

Stop that!!

I am further dismayed and frankly amazed at the difference between what women think is hot on women and what men think is hot?

When the hell did this happen?

I'll spell it out clearly for you

Men think women are sexy when they are showing off their anatomical differences - ie boobs and bum. And legs.

Not hiding them in baggy pants!!

Furthermore throw out your tracksuit pants. And your big t-shirts.

Run a bubble bath, throw on some episodes of Sex and City, paint your nails (but not blood red!!)

Lather your feet in moisturizer, brush your hair 100 times and call your BFF for a gossip about boys.

Relish in the power you have that is all yours by just being a girl!

NB Men also do not think leopard print is hot. Even if it is on pair of $500 shoes.

8. Are You Annonying or Attractive?

This is a posting for those of you who are in a relationship. Probably have been for a year or so. And are wondering why your boyfriend isn't paying you as much attention as he used to. First thing I would do before I start bitching about him to all my friends - some self-relection!! Are you annoying?

I have a friend - lets call her Valerie. Very gorgeous girl! But she is soo annoying and I know her boyfriend thinks so too. Valerie will talk when his favorite tv show is on even when he repeatedly asks her not to. She will whine in a sing song voice "baaaby, get me a drink" whilst lolling about on the lounge. She will furthermore loll about on said lounge in a tatty old dressing gown with her arms and legs flung all over him as he sits perched uncomfortabley on the other end. She will cry at the drop of a hat and commence further whining until he attempts to fix it even when its nothing to do with him. When he takes her to the movies, she will talk all the way through it and when he takes her out to dinner, she will get out of her chair and sit on his lap.

She thinks she is being cute. I know something she doesn't. She isn't being cute - she is being annoying and her boyfriend is looking to meet other women on the internet.

Ask yourself right now - is your behaviour to your partner annoying or attractive? Would you want to spend time with you? I am quite sure not all of you are as bad as Valerie but a few minutes self-reflection won't hurt you and it defintely won't hurt your relationship!