193. Don't Be A Bitch

Don't be a bitch.

Not only is it not classy but you won't win and you may end up with real muck on your face.

Need further proof?

A friend of mine hooked up with his ex-girlfriend 5 months ago, just a few weeks before he went on deployment to Afghanistan.

Background?

Having being dumped by her long-term boyfriend for more or less further bitchy behaviour, this piece of work decided to get some attention from our unsuspecting upcoming war hero.

He fell for it.

She thought she could rest on her previous charms.

Problem was, she was no longer that charming. And her lack of attention and support for our hero was abhorrent and unintelligent.

Her contact with him was clearly always only when she needed some attention herself.

Her cat and mouse antics were childish and sloppy.

And disgustingly self-centred.

She probably thought she would get away with it.

What she didn't count on was her competition.

Someone who was more charming and definitely more than prepared to lavish the man in question with attention.

And care packages.

And daily emails enquiring about his well-being.

And whom more importantly just liked him for who he is and not what he could offer or represent.

Today he flies home a little different to how he left, somewhat wiser I gather but more importantly, not hopeful about a chance with the spoilt, tacky, witch.

The ex stays an ex.

Moral of the story?

You never, ever know who is looming in the background ready to be more charming and less bitch.

169. James

James Blunt. Goodbye My Lover..

Remember us and all we used to be
I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile.
I've watched you sleeping for a while.
I'd be the father of your child.
I'd spend a lifetime with you.
I know your fears and you know mine.
We've had our doubts but now we're fine,
And I love you, I swear that's true


JB - If one day, you see me down the street holding hands with someone, remember no matter how much time has passed, I am wishing that someone was you.

136. Chasing Amy

Best advice I can give you tody is - if you meet someone who mentions his ex-girlfriend more than twice in the first three months - run away.

It's a shadow you can't and shouldn't attempt to walk in.

He has baggage that you don't need to have brought to a new relationship - let him deal with it and if he is really, truly, interested in you, he'll come and find you when he is done with it.

You deserve better than being treated second best.

116. Snoop?

Q. I just looked in my boyfriend's mobile phone and he has been calling his ex-girlfriend. He told me they were done and not communicating. I'm freaked out now because if he knows I was looking, he'll turn it into a trust issue. And, of course, I don't know what they're talking about. Plus, she lives far away. My question is: was it bad that I looked in his phone and what should I do now that I know?

A. Yes, it's bad that you looked in his phone. Why? Because you may be freaking out over nothing. That, and you violated his privacy. Maybe he sneaked behind your back because he figured you would make a big scene if he told you he was talking to his ex. Guys hate drama. His converations could very well have been innocent.

But for the moment, let's say he's guilty and he's flirting with his ex. I suggest you wait a week, don't look in his phone again, keep quiet, and then talk about an ex of your own. Say how he called you (make it up if you have to?!) and how it's inevitable that certain people from our past will call us. Say that you think couples should be mature about this. If he doesn't come clean at that moment, store it, because he may be waiting until he's comfortable. if in a day he doesn't come clean, ask him if he ever talks to his ex. Say you won't be mad. He won't believe you, but say it anyway. if he still doesn't come clean, I would mentally start the separation process, because he's clearly got something to hide. In general, I don't recommend looking in anyone's phone unless it's an emergency.

109. Ex-citement?

Every now and then an ex will rear their head.

Perhaps beg for another chance with your heart. (thanks facebook.com)

I have even seen it really work.

Infact friends of mine are my all time favorite love story.

These two dated at high school and were each other's first lovers.

After high school, they grew apart, as they started really growing up.

He moved away. Both got very serious with other people.

Nearly ten years later and single again, he looked her up.

They had coffee and shared a kiss.

Today they share a home and two very cute kids.

But it doesn't always work. And time apart does really cloud what it was really like.

If you broke up beacause one of you cheated or as you grew up, your beliefs/morals were different to each others, then it almost never works.

And it's much better to just keep the past as really fond memories, even if a little skewed from the truth.

Need further proof?

Last night, I found an old diary of mine. I laughed til I cried at the memories. I was then inspired to pull out some old albumns of us looking very cute and romantic.

Luckily my BFF also reminded me of the names of several of the girls that he also spent nights with when I thought he was at work.

And she told me she just heard he had left his wife of ten years. For her sister.