I received quite a few emails from readers yesterday after my last post asking why cheating wasn't always a deal breaker.
Again I think its a very personal decision that can only be made by the person directly involved ie you.
Once you get through the awful first stage of finding out and have talked it over with your partner, the next stage of getting on with it, is just as hard.
If you do decide to trust him again, then this means that you have to learn to not question him every time he doesn't answer when you call or sms. And you have to really, try to not get mad at him when he has a new mysterious woman facebook friend.
However, the onus also has to be on your partner to make an effort to regain your trust by not giving you too many reasons to be suspcious.
If he is making a huge effort, then you need to decide if the punishment on you fits the crime.. Does being with him still make you really, really happy? Do you really believe him when he says it won't happen again? Are you still in love with him?
Only you can truly know the answer to that..
NB I'd advise against staying with someone you do not trust just because you have kids. A friend of mine (whose parents didn't divorce after the love was gone) once said to me "If your parents are fighting every day, your home is already broken"
